APA Division 44 Committee on CNM Resources

The following resources were developed by Dr. Heath Schechinger and/or the APA Division 44 Committee on Consensual Non-monogamy:

• Inclusive medical and mental healthcare for CNM pamphlet - A pamphlet highlighting CNM-inclusive practices for medical and mental health providers.

• CNM for mental health professionals brochure - A brochure highlighting CNM-inclusive practices for mental health professionals.

• Assessing relationship diversity on demographic forms - A guide with suggestions for best practices for assessing relationship diversity on demographic forms.

• Fact sheet - An empirically informed fact sheet about ethical non-monogamy with recommendations for researchers and clinicians on how to be inclusive toward the CNM community.

• APA Division 44 Committee on CNM Initiatives - This is a list of the current initiatives of the Committee on CNM.

• CNM Literature Database - A list of indexed and organized peer-reviewed CNM articles for researchers and educators.

• Kenneth R. Haslam Collection on Polyamory - A resource with historic polyamory artifacts that can be reviewed by researchers, educators, and the public.

• Request to Psychology Today - A copy of the APA Division 44 Committee on Consensual Non-monogamy’s request that Psychology Today make terms for consensual non-monogamy and kink/diverse sexualities directly searchable on their directory.

• Request to APA Psychologist Locator - A copy of the APA Division 44 Committee on Consensual Non-monogamy’s request for APA Psychologist Locator to add searchable categories for CNM and Kink to their therapist directory.

Polyamory Legal Advocacy Coalition Resources

The following resources were developed by Dr. Heath Schechinger and Diana Adams, Esq., two of the Co-Founders of the Polyamory Legal Advocacy Coalition. These documents can be used as resources for individuals or organizations advocating for the rights of those with diverse family and relationship structures, such as polyamory and consensual non-monogamy. These documents can be shared on various platforms, including websites, social media, and educational resources, to promote greater inclusivity and acceptance for people in these relationships. They can also be used as resources for those who have experienced discrimination or harassment, providing language to confront and articulate such discrimination.

• Dr. Heath Schechinger’s Affidavit Regarding Discrimination Against Those Engaged in and/or Identifying with Consensual Non-Monogamy - In this document, Dr. Schechinger presents evidence and research on the experiences of those in consensually non-monogamous relationships and communities.

• Diana Adam’s, Esq., Affirmation Regarding Discrimination Against Those Involved In Consensually Non-Monogamous and Diverse Relationship Structures - In this document, Diana Adams provides a statement denouncing discrimination against individuals who are engaged in non-monogamous and diverse relationships.

Organizations

• APA Division 44 Committee on Consensual Non-monogamy - An organization dedicated to generating research, creating resources, and advocating for the inclusion of consensual non-monogamous relationships in basic and applied research, education and training, psychological practice, and public interest.

• Polyamory Legal Advocacy Coalition - The Polyamory Legal Advocacy Coalition (PLAC) is a multi-disciplinary coalition of academic and legal professionals. PLAC seeks to advance the civil and human rights of polyamorous individuals, communities, and families through legislative advocacy, public policy, and public education. These rights include the legal recognition of diverse relationship structures, such as multi-partner/multi-parent families, diverse family structures, and relationships involving ethical non-monogamy, and the end of discrimination based on relationship status.

• National Coalition of Sexual Freedom - NCSF is committed to creating a political, legal, and social environment in the US that advances equal rights for consenting adults who engage in alternative sexual and relationship expressions. They advance the rights of, and advocate for consenting adults in the BDSM-Leather-Fetish, Swing, and Polyamory Communities through direct services, education, advocacy, and outreach, in conjunction with their partners, to directly benefit these communities.

• Loving More - A national 501(c)3 nonprofit organization, educational website, online community and magazine dedicated to the support and education of polyamory and polyamorous issues. Loving More also sponsors national conferences and does advocacy on behalf of the poly community.

• Polyamory Society - A nonprofit organization seeking to promote and supports multi-partner relationships and families. They include links to resources, podcasts, as well as polyam conferences, classes, and news.

Online Resources

• Polyamory in the News - A blog by Alan MacRobert with an archive of media related to polyamory.

• Reddit Polyamory - A site used by the polyamory community to discuss issues, build community, offer/receive advice, or learn about topics being discussed.

• More Than Two - A website with resources about polyamory.

• Jessica Fern - Jessica is a trusted colleague who has free webinars and is the author of the book, Polysecure.

• Polyamory Weekly - A website for the polyam community by the hosts of the Polyamory Weekly podcast. In addition to their podcast, the website includes many helpful resources such as polyamory book recommendations.

• Normalizing Non-Monogamy - Supported by Normalizing Non-Monogamy podcast hosts Emma & Fin, they provide resources and stories every Wednesday from real people exploring all aspects of ethical non-monogamy including polyamory, swinging, and everything in between.

• Polyamory.com Forum - A forum website for the poly community to discuss issues, build community, offer/receive advice, or learn about topics being discussed.

• Black & Poly - A community focusing on providing an eclectic, culturally rich environment where people can come together to socialize, learn, and share common interests related to polyamorous living.

• Sex and Psychology - A website by Dr. Justin Lehmiller, social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute.

• Meg-John & Justin - An ENM-inclusive website with podcast episodes, zines, blog-posts, and videos sex and relationship advice, ideas, and education.

• Asking for What You Want - A website with resources about polyamory, sexual communication, relationships, & women’s empowerment by sex educator, Marcia Baczinski.

• Sex-Positive Psych - A website with resources by Dr. Liz Powell, author of Building Open Relationships.

• Conscious Polyamory - A blog about polyamory emphasizing loving relationships, personal growth, and conscious evolution by Morgaine and Art (a.k.a. Wide Guy).

• Off the Relationship Escalator - A blog and website with resources related to solo polyamory by author Amy Gahran (Aggie Sez).

• Kimchi Cuddles - A website with ENM comics by Tikva Wolf.

• I’m Poly and So Can You - An advice column and ENM resources site by sex educator Andre Shakti.

• What is Compersion - A site with research and resources regarding compersion, a term often described as the opposite of jealousy and possessiveness.

• Polyamory Today - A publication focusing on personal experiences with exploring polyamory and ethical non-monogamy in modern times. They seek to “explore what it means to be polyamorous in today’s world, provide resources for polyamorous people and those interested in the potential this type of relationship can provide, and foster discussion about relationship success.”

• Polyamory Parenting Magazine - A list of online resources recommended by Polyamory Parenting Magazine.

• Polyamory & Parenthood - An online book on navigating non-monogamy as parents of young children.

Books

• Polysecure by Jessica Fern

• The Ethical Slut by Janet Hardy & Dossie Easton

• Mating In Captivity by Esther Perel

• The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory by Dedeker Winston

• Love’s Not Color Blind by Kevin Patterson

• The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy by Lola Phoenix

• Polyamory Journal: A Relationship Book by Kate Kincaid

• The Polyamory Paradox by Irene Morning

• Eight Things I Wish I Knew About Polyamory by Cunning Minx

• Building Open Relationships by Dr. Liz Powell

• Opening Up by Tristan Taormino

• Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha

• The Myth of Monogamy by David Barash

• Tales of Swinging and Polyamory by Cooper S. Beckett

• A Happy Life in an Open Relationship by Susan Wenzel

• Love Trinity On The Open Road by Richard Deerton

• Polyamory: Easy Introductory Guide to Polyamorous Relationships by Marissa Blake

• A Color Named Love by M. Ellery

For Coping With Jealousy

• The Jealousy Survival Guide by Kitty Chambless

• The Jealousy Workbook by Kathy Labriola

For Therapists & Coaches

• Polyamory: A Clinical Toolkit for Therapists (and Their Clients) by Martha Kauppi

• The Handbook of Consensual Non-Monogamy: Affirming Mental Health Practice Edited by Michelle Vaughan & Theodore Burnes

• A Therapist’s Guide to Consensual Nonmonogamy by Rhea Orion

Podcasts

• Polyamory Weekly - A weekly podcast covering polyamory and ethical non-monogamy from a pansexual, kink-friendly point of view by Cunning Minx.

• Multiamory - A podcast and blog offering new ideas and advice for multiple forms of love, from conscious monogamy to ethical polyamory and relationship anarchy by Emily, Dedeker, and Jase.

• Pedestrian Polyamory - a show about polyamory and all of its glorious (and not so glorious) features by Shira B. Katz and Gavin Katz.

• Life on the Swingset - A podcast about swinging, polyamory, and open relationship non-monogamy from the trenches.

• Disability After Dark - A podcast that looks at sexuality and disability from every angle by Disability Awareness Consultant, Andrew Gurza.

• Bawdy Storytelling - Bawdy Storytelling features true stories of sex, kink, body image, gender and more to build community and bring people together.

• Sex Gets Real - A weekly podcast about all things sex, relationships, pleasure, bodies, & connection by Dawn Serra is a sex educator, sex and relationship coach, trauma survivor, fat activist, podcaster, & lecturer.

• Modern Love - A podcast produced by WBUR and based on The New York Times’ popular series of weekly reader-submitted essays exploring the joys and tribulations of love by host Meghna Chakrabarti.

• Death, Sex & Money - Death, Sex and Money is an interview-style podcast hosted by Anna Sale that discusses the big questions "often left out of polite conversation."

• Loving Without Boundaries - A podcast offering interviews, lessons, and insights on the subjects of polyamory and ethical non-monogamy by Kitty Chambless, author of The Jealousy Survival Guide.

Community Groups/Events

• Alan’s List of Polyamory Events - A list of compiled polyamory-related conferences, workshops, and events across the world by Alan MacRobert, who runs the Polyamory in the Media blog.

• Polyamory Facebook Group - A closed Facebook discussion group with over 35,000 members.

• The Monocorn Sanctuary - An online community for people who are the monoamorous or monogamous part of an ethically non-monogamous, open, or polyamorous relationship.

• Meetup.com - A website for finding interest groups in your area. 

• Polyinfo.org - A collaboratively created, online listing of local polyamory groups.

Therapist Directories

One way to remove the barrier to culturally competent healthcare is to help people engaged in ENM identify medical and mental health providers that are affirming of diverse relationships and sexualities. I co-led a campaign to request the APA Psychologist Locator and Psychology Today to add searchable categories for Ethical Non-Monogamy/Open Relationships and Kink/Diverse Sexualities. Our campaign was successful. Their directories are now easier to find ENM and kink-affirming therapists. Here are links to these directories:

• CNM-affirming therapist through Psychology Today

• Kink-affirming therapist through Psychology Today

• APA Psychologist Locator

Dating Websites

• Feeld - An ENM and kink-friendly dating website.

• #Open - This dating app is literally designed for the polyamorous, CNM/ENM, and open community. They also have a breadth of virtual and IRL community events.

• OKCupid - It’s not specifically designed for the ENM/CNM community but it allows you to identify and search for people who are engaged or curious about polyamory/open/ENM relationships.

• BiCupid - This app claims to be “the world’s largest and most effective bisexual dating site, hookups for threesomes, swingers, and more.”

• MoreThanOne - This app is designed *specifically* for people engaged in polyamory, whether single or partnered.

• PolyFinda - This app was “designed by the polyamorous community” and you’re encouraged to clearly name what you’re looking for whether it’s to find an anchor partner, add more partner(s) to your pod, or something casual.

• Downdating - Designed for hookups, this app allows you to select whether you’d specifically like to go on a date or just hook up with a certain person.

• PolyMatchmaker - A polyamory dating website.